Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

April 24, 2018 | Jennifer Rehrig

Girls just wanna have fun!

I remember turning the radio up in my parents’ station wagon and singing along with Cyndi Lauper at the top of my lungs. (I’m probably dating myself here!) My mom reached over to turn it down and said, “That’s you.” We were, of course, driving to yet another girlfriends house.

The idea wasn’t original with Cyndi, though. This was the mantra of our home because my parents kept an open door to others from our church, our neighborhood and even from our world by hosting foreign exchange students. My mom is an amazing cook and hostess. Dad would sit and listen to anyone. I remember conversations, laughter, crying, shared meals, and a lifetime of fun. I could overhear it all from downstairs––where I was often entertaining a gaggle of children––grateful for the community and awakening to the realization that I loved being with and serving people.

If you ask me what gives me life I will tell you it’s meeting people, especially women, and encouraging them. It’s not uncommon for me to wake up at 5am to a text from a friend or adjust my schedule so I can grab coffee with a new lady from my community group. As an extrovert, I could do this all day without a second thought.

But that’s not always the case for people who aren’t wired exactly like me.

A dear friend and mentor in my faith has always modeled leaning into what’s happening in the everyday moments. The good news? You don’t have to be an extrovert to grow in community. Sometimes it’s as simple as quietly opening up to one trusted person and doing life with them.

When my husband and I first moved to Charlotte, we didn’t know a single person. We quickly realized our need for people we could call on when life happens. . .the peaks of joy and the valleys of devastation. 20 years later, we have many close friends, but our most precious friendships endure because we took a chance and became vulnerable in our difficult seasons. To this day we still talk, meet, text, go on vacation, and spend time with these friends. God was faithful to meet us through a community of others.

One of New Charlotte’s core values is community. We strive to be a church where no one walks alone. My hope for women at New Charlotte is that we embrace an environment of connection in which we bravely live out our stories together, one moment at a time. Community Groups meet all across South Charlotte and people are connecting, sharing life, leaning into the hard places and being real with one another. If you don’t have a community group, give me a call. I truly would love to have coffee with you and listen to your heart (and maybe even sing some Cyndi Lauper together!).

New Charlotte is hosting a Ladies' Night Out on May 6 at 6:30pm. All Charlotte women are invited to join us for a time of fun encouragement, real connection and delicious treats. Meet a new friend, reconnect with an old friend, and relax together. Register for this free event here.


Jen Rehrig is Community Team Coordinator at New Charlotte. She’s always up for a good cup of coffee and chocolate with friends––reminding them they are created uniquely and God has an amazing plan. Jen and her husband, Shannon, live in Charlotte with their two sons.