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Welcome to the Student Ministry of New Charlotte Church!  We want to be filled with the new life of Jesus, and we want to take that new life to our city.

The Hub is our Middle School Ministry and meets Sunday mornings at 11am.  Students will eat donuts, play four-square, worship together, listen to a message, and dig deep with each other in small group conversation.

The Foundry is our High School Ministry and meets Wednesday evenings at 7:00-8:30.  Real good food and real good conversation about life and God will take place with real awesome leaders.  See locations below:

gals: 6522 Bentridge Drive Charlotte, NC 28226
(contact Julie Fox – fox.julie.m@gmail.com)
guys: 8707 Cahill Drive Charlotte, NC 28277
(contact Grant Haun – granthaun@gmail.com)

Be sure to visit our Student Ministry table in the Worship Center for more information.  You can also email Student Pastor Heath Krueger at heathkrueger@newcharlotte.org.  Check us out on Facebook too!

UPCOMING EVENTS!!

Greenway Park Elementary School
New Charlotte students are passionate about impacting their city for Christ.  Consider joining us every Thursday from 3:45-5:00 as we tutor kindergarten-3rd graders at Greenway Park Elementary School.  You can register online as a volunteer at https://www.cmsvolunteers.com.

Tsunami Fall Retreat @ Camp Ridgecrest
During the weekend of November 7-9, all New Charlotte Students have the opportunity to experience God in the beautiful mountains of North Carolina.  Trip cost is $140 due on October 26.  Details to come…

 

 

Comparison Trap (parent cue)

We’re Teaching This:

On a scale of one to ten, how do you measure up? Are you tall enough? Pretty enough? Smart enough? Funny enough? And on that scale, which number represents enough? Do you have to score a ten or will a solid seven do? How about a five? It’s better than average, right? Most of us measure how we’re doing by how everyone else is doing. Not a day goes by that we’re not tempted to glance to our left and to our right to see how we measure up to the people around us. This is especially true at school. We see everyone else’s grades, clothes, athletic ability, talent, and popularity. And it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up.  So we adjust course, try harder, spend more, and then compare again. It’s exhausting. In this 3-part series, Andy Stanley explores the difficult—but not impossible—challenge of escaping The Comparison Trap.

Think About This:

Parenting is hard. We probably knew going in that it wouldn’t always be a walk in the park. But, as a parent, have you noticed there are some curve balls that you just don’t know how to handle?

Chances are, you knew your kids were going to be different from one another. But it’s also likely you had no idea just how different they could be until you started raising them—until they hit a certain age and suddenly what you assumed would be true of one of your kids because it was true of an older one—just isn’t. Sometimes it feels like you have to learn how to parent all over again with each child. And sometimes not just with each child, but through each life-stage your children experience.

We may not do it on purpose, but there is a tendency to compare that comes so naturally and so easily. We bring attention to the ways our students are different from their siblings, their friends, our friends, and even earlier versions of themselves. It’s so tempting to say, “But why can’t you just be like______?” The problem is, comparison rarely works. It doesn’t make students want to try harder and it can often lead to resentment toward the parents and the sibling with whom they’re compared. Even within the family, there is no win in comparison.

Sameness isn’t even really a goal worth shooting for. Maybe there are traits in one of your children that you’d like the others to take on. That’s great, but you probably don’t want them to be exact replicas. A better goal is to be intentional in learning, studying, and celebrating the personality and wiring of each individual child.

Try This

No one wants to feel like they don’t measure up. Especially not in the place where they want to feel the safest and most secure. Work on making your family and your home the place where who your child is celebrated and not compared.

This week, point out something in your teenager that you appreciate. Find something that you have seen grow and develop in them that is a strength and then tell them how proud of them you are.

Then find something that, at first glance, feels like something you would change—that you would compare to someone else and wish away. And then find a way to leverage it. To see the good in it. For example,

·       “I know I’m often on your case about talking too much in class, but I want you to know that I also love how social you are. You are great at managing a lot of friendships.”

·       “I know that I get upset when you fight with your younger brother, but I also recognize that you’re just trying to get him to act in a way that is more socially acceptable. Thanks for wanting to help him.”

·       “Yesterday we had an argument about playing guitar instead of cleaning your room. While I still want you to have a clean room, I’m also really proud of you for working so hard to learn to play the guitar well.”

Finding a way to celebrate something you had vocally been frustrated over in the past will mean more than you can imagine to your student. Don’t underestimate the value of your affirmation.

Get connected to a wider community of parents at www.orangeparents.org.

Misplaced Anger

What makes you angry?

Is it long lines?  Slow drivers?  Running out of food or coffee?

Last year, a horse pooped all over the front of our brand new van.  That made me angry.

We all get angry.  But the problem isn’t anger.  The problem is we get angry at the wrong things.  Maybe we get angry at things we shouldn’t get angry about and don’t get angry about things we should get angry about.

Are we getting angry about things that won’t matter in 20 years?  Are we not getting angry about things that actually matter for eternity?

More than 1.7 million North Carolina residents are poor, more people than the entire population of New Hampshire.  And more than half a million of those poor are children – one out of every four children in the state.

Charlotte is in the top 10 cities for human trafficking.  Average age?  13 years old.

1278 students dropped out of Charlotte public schools last year.  242 girls dropped out to take care of their babies.  137?  To make $ for their family.

Every night in Charlotte, 7,000 kids live on the street.

1 in 28 children has a parent behind bars.  2 in 5 inmates lack a high school diploma.

10% of adults 65 yrs or older live in poverty.

Does this make you angry?  Does it get your blood pumping?

You see, I think God wants us to have a kind of ‘divine frustration’, or as Bill Hybels says, a ‘holy discontent.’

I think this is what Jesus had when he discovered the temple had been turned into a shopping mall, or a ‘den of robbers.’  He turned over tables and offered a harsh rebuke.  This was not a selfish anger, because selfish anger comes easily, since it’s simply a violation of our personal desire and preferences.  Anyone can have that.  Instead, it was more of a righteous anger, which doesn’t come as easily.  A kind of anger deeply rooted in truth and conviction.  This kind takes awhile to mature and develop.

The more we have righteous anger, the less we have selfish anger.  The more angry we are about homeless kids, the less angry we are at long lines.  The more angry we are about high school dropouts, the less angry we are at slow drivers.  The more angry I am about human trafficking, the less angry I am when a horse poops on my van.

A challenge:
What do we need to stop getting angry about?
What do we need to start getting angry about?
What do we need to keep getting angry about?

If God is nudging you to do something with your righteous anger, I’d recommend partnering with a local ministry below:
Homeless (The Harvest Center @ www.theharvestcenter.org)
Trafficking (Compassion To Act @ www.compassiontoact.org)
Poverty (Matthews Help Center @ www.matthewshelpcenter.org)

Want to engage life now, not later? Start here…

Scriptures ask a very important question: “What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”

The older I get the more I agree with this.  Life is flying by at warp speed isn’t it?  I turned 35 the other day and someone said, “Well, congrats. You’re halfway to 70.“  Wow.  Thanks for that.  Appreciate the well wishes…

Statements like that cause me to yearn for yesteryear.  The way things used to be.  And I can get sad.  You’re with a group of old friends and you find yourself sharing stories of ‘Remember when..‘  And you say something like, “Wow, where did all the years go?”

My friend Andy from The Office said, “I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you’ve actually left them.”

What a great quote.  He’s onto something.  In fact, the Scriptures urge us to “count our days so we can gain a heart of wisdom.”  My friend Reggie said, “When you realize how much time you have left, you get more serious about the time you have now.”

Of course, we need to plan and prepare and set goals and dream for the future. Of course we need to reflect and evaluate and remember and celebrate the past.  But in all the past reflections and future projections, may we not neglect present actions…

I want the glory years to be now.  I want the good old days to be now.  I want to seize the moment now.  The future begins now.

And the closer to 70 I get, the closer to others I want to be.  People over projects. Conversations over checklists.  Acts of compassion over acts of promotion. Personal hearts over corporate ladders.

I want to visit my friend in the hospital who just had a baby.  I want to close my computer and go home early.  I want to buy flowers for my wife when it’s not even our anniversary.  I want to stop doing the dishes and start pushing my daughter on her swing.  I want to turn off my phone and read a book to my son.  I want to roll down my window and ask my neighbor how her ailing mother is doing.

I want to text my friend a Bible verse to encourage him.  I want to call an old friend, apologize, and ask for forgiveness.  I want to not just give a homeless neighbor food, but ask him if he needs a friend.  I want to schedule a family meeting and pray together.  I want to call my Mom and tell her I love her.

I want to have lunch with a friend who just lost his Mom to cancer.  I want to give money and time to a local ministry.  I want to ask the cashier how she’s doing and mean it.  I want to pay for my friend’s meal when I know I can’t afford it.

In the Scriptures, Jesus went to a wedding.  The hosts ran out of wine.  Jesus’ mother came to Him and said, “They have no more wine.”  Jesus answered, “Why do you involve me?  My hour has not yet come.”

Then, something happened.  Maybe He had a few minutes to really think about it.  Maybe He counted His days.  Maybe He realized His time on earth was like a vapor.  Maybe He heard that still, small, subtle whisper of His Father, “Your time is now.  Show them My glory.

You know the rest of the story.  He turned nasty, stinky, dirty foot water into the finest wine ever tasted…

The point is this:  Our time is now.  Our hour is now.  There are needs all around us.  God, our Father is waiting for us to step in.  To breathe life into a dead situation.  To give light to a friend in the dark.  To not put off any longer giving others the best wine.

Jesus.